good afternoon sir ,
my question is that why hostel life is important, specially for girls?
good afternoon sir ,
Greetings to you, and apologies for the delayed response.
First of all about hostel life. Giving my own example, in the last 7 years I have lived in hostel (of two different colleges!) for 5 years and lived in a flat with friends for 2 years while I was working. What I learnt/achieved in these 7 years was self-confidence, independence, co-existence, self-management, firefighting, responsibilities. To not to make this post sound like a homily, let me describe the above a bit.
Self-confidence - From moving away the protective environment of parents, where things get done 'magically' by themselves, to doing the things yourself boosts your confidence. Talking to people around, school/college officials, government officials and getting work done on your own makes you feel good. I didn't even let my father come with me when I got my license made. I got my passport made by myself - from getting the form to submitting it. Everything. I became more self-reliant. I knew I could attend the Bryan Adams show in Delhi by myself with friends without our any available personal conveyance. My parents, as like others, were obviously apprehensive as I 'came-of-age' - but over time they gained confidence in myself!
Independence - It's not about 'breaking the shackles' and stuff. it is about being able to take your decisions independently. When you live alone, there are so many things that you decide about. Which elective courses to study and which not… Which brand to buy and which not… Such seemingly small things make you able to take your decisions, have your voice, and express yourself. This virtue helps as you grow up and are considered a mature part of your family and friends group.
Co-existence - having loads of friends is one short story. Living with them and with those who are not your friends is like a novel!. You learn how to live with others, how to respect each other's space, how to reach a compromise, how to behave with others. This is some kind of intangible people which is easily observed when you grow up.
Self-management - This a thing which is an ever-learning process throughout the life. A hostel life quickens its onset. You manage yourself, your money, your friendships, your time, your duties, your deadlines, your food and all. Your parents won't be there to manage you.
Firefighting - When things can go wrong, they do!… You learn how to take care of an ill friend, deal with electricity issues, administration issues, or any other emergency. You know how to keep things under control or at least have the confidence of dealing with any exigencies!
Responsibilities - With above, you become a responsible person. You know how your parents manage themselves and your home. And you start to contribute in your own way.
I must not say that you don't learn the above virtues while being at home. Just that being at a hostel quickens this process… The learning is huge in a short span of time.
Also, being a girl or a boy doesn't matter much as the above are necessary for a person irrespective of gender! Though, in Indian context, parents are much more protective about their daughters. They are apprehensive in sending them to hostels, sometimes losing out a good opportunity to send them to good schools/colleges.
My opinion is that irrespective of gender of a person, a hostel life has its own positives which are required for building up a good personality.
I will also warn that with the positives, there are dangerous negatives too. If independence, responsibilities, confidence etc. are misused - and the "propensity to misuse them is quite high" when you stay alone - it can have a catastrophic effect on mental health and personality building. You must have heard the line - Ladka/Ladki bigad gaya hai. So there is a thin line between self-management and losing your sanity!
I can go on and on on this topic!… I hope the above answered your query. If you meant something else, please be specific.